Grocery Store Myth

American cinema has absolutely failed us.

Growing up and watching movies, I was under the impression that when I became an adult, I would one day casually stroll through the produce section for my week’s groceries and reach for that perfect head of lettuce at the same time as a striking gentleman. We would laugh, he would offer me the lettuce, we’d begin speaking, and then ride off into matrimonial bliss.

I may be romanticizing this a bit.

The point is, I grew up believing meeting your husband or boyfriend (or even just your next bang buddy) was as simple as going to the grocery store. I grew up believing we are presented with endless random opportunities to meet someone.

And, almost a year of adulthood has taught me that is the biggest load of manure I’ve ever heard in my life.

I’m sure there’s some percentage of couples out there who met by doing their typical daily activities—going to the gym or walking the dog. But, most days at the gym, I sweat my life away on the bike without even acknowledging the person next to me. Not really opening myself up to a hottie at that moment I guess.

Nowadays we’re inundated by Meetup, Match, and 100 other ready made recipes for a successful dating life. We’re taught not to obsess about dating but 1) the only people who ever say that are the ones in relationships so I think we should just tell them all to go kick rocks and 2) it seems the more we try not to obsess, the more we do.

So, here’s what I think they (whoever they are) should tell you: part of being an adult is being comfortable being alone. And, I really don’t think that’s a single girl’s cope out. I think the people in this world, single or in relationships, who are the most happy and healthy are the ones who are OK spending an evening or a day or even an entire weekend by themselves. I don’t advocate total isolation. But, there will come a time when you have to be by yourself. (OMG SO SCARY.) And, the sooner we learn how to be happy putting on some headphones and rocking out to Gym Class Heroes by ourselves (maybe I did that last night, maybe I didn’t…), the sooner we (this includes me…hence the collective pronoun) can all stop obsessing over not having that perfect person just yet.

8 months, 8 quotes.

So, it’s here. My last week in Massachusetts.

I could write a saga about my many ups and downs here, but I think it would be more fitting (and quite frankly a lot less work) to pick 8 quotes that I think embody the time I’ve spent here.

1) “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” -Neale Donald Walsch

2) Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming.- from 11 Things to Know at 25 (ish)

3) Unravel the knots that keep you from living a healthy, whole life, and do it now, before any more time passes.- also from 11 Things to Know at 25 (ish)

4) “No one leaves this life unscathed.”- Katie Couric

5) “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.” -Oscar Wilde

6) “I know you’re smart. But everyone here is smart. Smart isn’t enough. The kind of people I want on my research team are those who will help everyone feel happy to be here. ” ― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

7) “I have just returned from Boston. It is the only sane thing to do if you find yourself up there.” -Fred Allen

8) “Leaving is bittersweet but after 8 tumultuous months, I’m leaving here in peace. That’s all I wanted.” -my tweet from earlier today.

My favorite Greater Boston moments

So, I’m now down to less than 2 weeks left in the Greater Boston area. My first 8 months away from my home and my collegiate bubble have been challenging, exciting, and unpredictable. But, through it all, I have had some pretty good times here. So, because I don’t understand much about the current Superbowl game on my television other than a touchdown, I’ve decided to blog about some of my highlights here in Massachusetts.

  • My sister’s visit in October: We lucked out and had thee most gorgeous weather I’ve ever seen which made for lunch outside on Newbury street, a copious amount of shopping, and a duck tour (check it off the Boston bucket list!)
  • My best friend’s visit in August: It all happened in about a 24-hour time span, but we somehow managed to shop, drink margaritas, and dance the night away. It was the first time I saw her since I left our apartment at school many months ago, but with us, it was like I never left.
  • Chaundra’s BBQ: I had only been living here for about a month and I was hitting that super homesick point. I went to a BBQ where I knew absolutely no one and ended up meeting a cast of characters, many of whom became important during my time here. It was the first time I really felt like myself since I got here and it felt wonderful.
  • Celtics game w/ dad and my cast of coworker homies: The game was a blowout, but there aren’t many other chances to dougie with your dad. Nough said.
  • Holiday happy hour w/ the coworker homies: Everyone was happy and on that holiday high. It was one of those nights where I said I would leave at 8 and all of a sudden, it was 11pm. Those are the best.
  • Getting Roxy: It was a Friday afternoon during the summer and…again…I was super homesick. So, I decided to adopt a 7 lb furry creature who has since made my apartment a more interesting and loveable place to live.
  • Wale concert on Halloween: Acted out at Wale and then flew home the next day for Jay-Z/Kanye. I got to be a fake rock star for a few days. Nice.

I am ready for a whole new set of adventures in Texas. But, I am not as ready to leave this place as I thought I would be. I’ve made friends, I’ve made memories, I’ve made an entire life. But, I guess in 11 days, it will be time for a new life in a new place…all crammed into 8 months.